Yep, we’re going there
Sex. Intimacy. Connection. The stuff no one really talks about properly when you’re trying to conceive, battling fertility problems or navigating life after loss. Well… we are. Because it matters. Because you matter.
Trying to conceive can absolutely bulldoze your sex life. When sex starts to feel like a schedule to stick to rather than something spontaneous and joyful, it’s no wonder the spark starts to fizzle. And if you’ve experienced loss, there can be a whole new layer of trauma and sadness wrapped up in the act itself.
If that’s you right now, please know: you’re not broken, and neither is your relationship. This is incredibly common—and totally valid.
Some ways to gently rekindle the connection:
💬 Talk, even if it feels awkward
You don’t have to have the perfect words. Just start small—acknowledge how things feel right now and what you might both need to feel closer again.
💫 Focus on intimacy, not intercourse
Sometimes the pressure of “getting back to it” can make everything feel more distant. Begin with touch, cuddles, massage… things that reconnect you without expectation.
🔥 Keep it sexy outside the fertile window
Sex that’s all about conception can kill the vibe. Make space for connection that isn’t timed or purposeful—because pleasure for the sake of pleasure is powerful.
🛁 Mix it up
New lingerie? Kitchen table antics? A massage swap with scented oils? Why not! Feeling good in your body again can start with play, curiosity, and a little adventure.
💡 DIY is totally A-OK
Understanding your own pleasure is empowering—and sharing that knowledge with your partner can bring a whole new level of intimacy to the table (or bed… or shower… you get the picture 😉).
Need some inspo? Check out this article with loads of tips to keep things spicy:
Spice Up Your Sex Life – Oprah Daily
Being single doesn’t mean you’re cut off from intimacy or sensuality. In fact, this can be an incredible time to reconnect with yourself—mind, body, and soul.
Knowing what feels good isn’t just empowering—it’s healing. You deserve pleasure, softness, exploration. You deserve to feel good.
✨ Self-intimacy is self-love
Learning what turns you on, what makes you feel safe, and what brings you joy can be transformative.
💥 Orgasms = happy hormones
Oxytocin and dopamine—yes please! They reduce stress, boost mood, and reconnect you to your physical body in the best kind of way. More on this tomorrow…
🖐 Need a little guide? We’ve got you:
(Yes, Woman & Home—who knew they were such saucy minxes?!)
💛 Whether you’re partnered up or solo, the golden rule here is: go at your own pace.
There’s no rush. No pressure. Just permission to explore what intimacy looks and feels like for you—right now, in this chapter of life.
You’ve been through so much. You deserve to feel connected, grounded, and most of all… held—by yourself or someone else.
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