An introduction to therapy

Written by Ali Xavier - Tilia Therapy

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June 6, 2025

Starting therapy can feel a bit daunting, especially when you’re not sure what to expect — and that’s exactly why we’ve created this introduction. In the video ‘What is Therapy and What is it Not’, we explain how therapy isn’t about being ‘fixed’ but about being supported. ‘What to Expect from Therapy’ takes you through the process step by step, so you feel prepared and informed. If you’re wondering whether individual sessions or couples therapy might be best for you, ‘Should I Have 1:1 or Couples Therapy?’ offers guidance to help you decide what’s right for your situation. And finally, ‘A Guide to the Worksheets’ shows you how to get the most from the practical tools we’ve provided — designed to help you reflect, process, and move forward in your own time.

An intro – What is therapy?

What to expect from therapy

Where can I find a therapist and should I be having 1:1 or couples counselling

A guide to the worksheets

The worksheets:

Navigating grief, loss and hope

Baby Loss and Miscarriage Grief Triangle

Checking in with your partner

Couples check in

Working down the worry

Re-framing negative thinking

Reframing negative thinking

Tilia Therapy are a team of BACP accredited counsellors who use integrative models of therapy to help individuals overcome challenges and reach potential. This means we use a multi-disciplinary approach from various schools of counselling and human psychology according to your individual need. We work online offering therapy over Zoom or face-to-face sessions in the Clapham area, and work with ages 18+

https://www.tiliatherapy.co.uk/

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